QOTW: “Life Is Good” Edition

Here are seven quotes I came across this week about life, all it has to offer, and how to live your own and no one else’s.

Security is mostly a superstition. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”

Helen Keller

Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough.

Emily Dickinson

The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.

Oprah Winfrey

Life is short, and it is up to you to make it sweet.

Sarah Louis Delany

I’ve learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life.

Maya Angelou

I choose to make the rest of my life the best of my life.

Louise Hay

Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.

Nora Ephron

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Mildred Ella “Babe” Didrikson Zaharias: Mega-Athlete and Golf Champion

Olympic gold medalist, world record holder in multiple sports, and founder of the Ladies Pro Golf Association, “Babe” was the ultimate athlete of the early 19th century. 

Babe was born on June 26th, 1911 in Port Arthur, Texas. Her nickname was modeled after another “great”: Babe Ruth. She grew up playing baseball in her neighborhood and earned the nickname by being a fierce competitor and routine home-run hitter. It’s been noted that she excelled in every sport she tried. She even played basketball on the company team, The Golden Cyclones, while working as a secretary at Employers Casualty Company in Dallas, Texas for three years before setting her sights on the 1932 Olympics. 

At the time, women were only allowed to compete in three events, yet Babe ended up qualifying in five. At 21-years-old, she earned a gold medal for the javelin throw (143 ft) and the 80-meter hurdle and set a new world record for both, no less. The only “downside” was that she left the Olympic games with a silver medal instead of gold in the high-jump after the judges disqualified her technique. Pretty good for a first Olympics, huh? As it stands, Babe is the only track and field athlete to win individual Olympic medals in running, throwing, and jumping events – male or female

She’s well-known for these feats, but the most major of her achievements is her career in golf. Throughout her life, she won 82 tournaments and was considered a professional golfer because of her endorsements. At one point or another throughout her career, she was endorsed by Wilson, Wheaties, and Timex. P. Goldsmith Sons Inc. also created branded Babe golf clubs and balls and her most lucrative deal came from Chrysler. Chrysler paid Babe to play the harmonica and stand next to a red Dodge coupe at the Detroit Auto Show. How cool is that? 

She met her husband because of golf, too. George Zaharais was a professional wrestler and actor from Colorado and they met at the 1938 Los Angeles Open when they were paired together at the tournament. She was competing as the first woman in the tournament ever. No other woman competed in this tournament until almost six decades later. 

Eleven months after meeting Goerge and Babe got married and George became Babe’s manager. They settled down in Tampa, Florida and bought a golf course of their own. As Babe became more well-known, she received amateur status and this allowed her to play in a more competitive league of tournaments. Between 1943 and 1947, she won 17 amateur golf tournaments in a row. 

“That little white ball won’t move until you hit it, and there’s nothing you can do after it has gone.”

Um, wow. How profound of you, Babe.

During this period, there were limited options for female golf competitors, so Babe co-founded the Ladies Professional Golf Association with fellow golfer Patty Berg. Babe held status as the president of this organization for the rest of her life. As a professional athlete, she achieved a major feat for women everywhere and in her final years, she reportedly earned close to $100,000 annually from endorsements and tournaments she competed in. $100,000 in the 1940s is akin to 1 million dollars today in 2021.

She was one cool girl and a truly fierce competitor. 

The New York Times columnist Charles McGrath has written of Babe, “Except perhaps for Arnold Palmer, no golfer has ever been more beloved by the gallery.”

More cool facts about Babe:

  • She didn’t excel in school. She had to repeat 8th grade. 
  • Babe was an excellent seamstress and made most of her clothes, including her golf ‘fits. 
  • Although only 5’7” and 115 lbs, she was deemed “manly” by many critics and physically very strong. 
  • She sang and played harmonica. She recorded songs like “I Felt a Little Teardrop” and “Detour” with Mercury Records.
  • In 1976, she was inducted into the National Women’s Hall of Fame. 
  • In 1981, The U.S. Postal Service put her on an 18 cent stamp!
  • The Associated Press declared Babe Woman Athlete of the 20th Century in 1999. 

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Rita Moreno: First Latino with an EGOT

Rita Moreno is Miss Puerto Rico: Triple Threat. Singer, dancer, actress, and EGOT (Emmy, Grammy, Oscar, and Tony) recipient. Her resume is extensive in the entertainment industry; most notably for capturing roles in musical films Singin’ in the Rain (1952), The King and I (1956), West Side Story (1961). 

Speaking about Singin’ in the Rain, Moreno has said that Gene Kelly wanted her in the movie and she seemed to fit the role he had in mind for her: silent film star Zelda Zanders. “He (Kelly) never said ‘Oh, she’s too Latina,’ he just thought I’d be fine for it.” Her most notable role? Anita in the original West Side Story. “What was important about Anita to me — and still is — is that Anita, believe it or not, was the only part I ever remember where I represented Hispanics in a dignified and positive way.”

She almost didn’t take the role that made her a huge star after hearing the original lyrics she’d have to sing in “America”: “Puerto Rico. You ugly island, island of tropic diseases.” She threatened to turn down the role, but Stephen Sondheim ended up changing the lyric to: “Puerto Rico, my heart’s devotion, let it sink back in the ocean.”

West Side Story is making a comeback on the silver screen December 10th, 2021 and a role was written specifically with Rita Moreno in mind. She’s also an executive producer. After all, she did win the Oscar for her portrayal of Anita in the 1961 movie. The day before the movie premieres, December 9th 2021, Moreno will turn 90 years old. 

After her Oscar win, Moreno thought more was to come for her. She thought she’d be met with offers to play more big roles or even roles written with her in mind. I mean, this happens for actresses that typically win Oscars, right? An Oscar usually propels an actresses’ career, right? Unfortunately, not for Rita Moreno. 

After the thrill was gone, Moreno’s life slowly returned to her reality: as a Latina actress. She was offered stereotyped roles as housewives of gang members and of the like. She cites this time as “the heartbreak of her life”. She turned these offers down, and rightfully so, since they were often offensive or insignificant. She didn’t make another movie for seven years after winning her Oscar. 

In 1975, she won a Tony for her role in The Ritz. For most of the 70’s, Moreno was a cast member of the children’s show The Electric Company for which she earned a Grammy award for the show’s album. Cue the phrase: Hey, you guys! She also snagged a role in The Muppet Show, another children’s program, and earned an Emmy. Thus, in 1977, she was then an EGOT recipient.

In more recent history, she’s been featured in series like The Golden Girls, Miami Vice, Murphy Brown, Ugly Betty, Where on Earth is Carmen Sandiego? and Oz. She also received the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 2004. 

A new PBS documentary based upon her memoir, Just a Girl Who Decided to Go for It, narrates her life and career. Coming up in the “Golden Age” of Hollywood, she experienced her fair share of sexism, racism, and sexual assault.

She described Buddy Adler, former Fox Studio Chief and extremely powerful in Moreno’s professional world at the time, as someone she would try desperately not to be alone with. She added her experience in light of the Me Too movement sparked by the disgusting actions of Harvey Weinstein. Unfortunately, men like this exist, and Moreno wanted to shed light on her experience as a woman being hounded for over a year by a man who had the power to sidetrack her career.

Love Life

As for her love life, Moreno has caught quite a few big fish in her lifetime. She dated big names like Marlon Brando and “The King” himself, Elvis Presley. 

“I dated Elvis to make Marlon jealous. So for a short while there, I had the two kings of different things, show business royalty.”

She and Brando had a tumultuous relationship that caused her to attempt suicide. After the attempt, Brando sent her a letter giving her closure, an apology, and a final goodbye. Six months later, he called her up and they became friends. 

Moreno married Leonard Gordon in 1965. They had one child together, a girl named Fernanda. Gordon died in 2010. Despite being together for 45 years, Moreno describes herself as “blossoming” after Gordon’s death. She felt like she could finally be her “raucous” self, which he often described as her “show business-self”. 

“I really did love him, but what happened was … sometimes people make contracts with each other that are never verbalized or spoken. In my case, it was, ‘I’ll be a wonderful little girl and amuse you and make you happy if you will be my daddy and my protector and take care of me.’ That’s what our contract really was, and the day that I decided I wanted to start growing up is when the marriage got into trouble, and that literally started in our seventh year. I remember talking divorce with him at that time. And of course, we didn’t, and I didn’t and that as that. But I was unhappy for a very, very, very long time.”

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Maria Sibylla Merian: Discovery of Metamorphosis

Maria Sibylla Merian was a naturalist, botanical illustrator, and entomologist. 

Merian studied insects, or if you’re like me, you call them BUGS. I’m not a huge bug person, but I do appreciate their presence on our earth and their contributions to the circle of life. I just don’t want them nibbling on me in my bed sheets and I especially do not want them creeping and crawling and making their homes in the corner of my bathtub. Nevertheless, Merian is one of the most interesting women I’ve come across while researching influential women throughout history. Her innate curiosity and depicting the world around her through art proved to be extremely beneficial to the scientific community, even today. 

She’s best known for her illustrations of plant life and insects of what is now the country of Suriname. It’s said that she discovered insects and animals previously unknown to the South American country, which isn’t entirely uncommon for the time period. Heck, we’re only now discovering previously unknown species in 2021. 

Not only did she accomplish that feat, but in doing so she also recorded and illustrated the life cycles of up to 186 insect species. In turn, she uncovered the phenomenon we know today as metamorphosis

Painted portrait of Maria Sibylla Merian

Merian was born in 1647 in Frankfurt, Germany. At the time, this was a center for the silk trade and silk worms, (aka the domestic silk moth. I guess? Google it.), were very important to the city’s economy. At age 13, Merian began to collect insects and raise silkworms. Her stepfather, an artist himself, encouraged her to paint and so she began to paint the insects and plants of her environment. 

“I spent my life investigating insects. At the beginning, I started with silk worms in my hometown of Frankfurt. I realized that other caterpillars produced beautiful butterflies or moths, and that silkworms did the same. This led me to collect all the caterpillars I could find in order to see how they changed.”

Merian married and had two daughters, Johanna Helen and Dorthea Maria, with her stepfather’s apprentice, Johann Andreas Graff, who was from Nuremberg. They moved to Nuremberg where she helped her family financially by giving drawing lessons to unmarried daughters of wealthy families. This helped her social status within the community and as a result, she had access to many of the finest gardens maintained by the elite where she could continue her studies of plant life and insects. During this time in her life, she began publishing many collections of paintings of plant life and, from time to time, insects. 

She was not only an artist in the typical sense. She did not only draw and paint, but Merian also started engraving her works on copperplate. 

Quite a few years later, she was indoctrinated by a Labadist community, a religious cult led by radical pietists, with her mother and daughters. During that time, she learned Latin and studied the development of frogs, which she often caught and dissected. 

After leaving the cult community, she lived for a brief time in Amsterdam. She made a living selling her paintings and by 1698, she was living lavishly in a house on Kerkstraat. Most notably, because of her reputation she was given the opportunity to view personal collections of wildlife from Suriname, a Dutch colony in South America, that some of the highest officials in Amsterdam had in their possession. Thus her next adventure began… Merian and her daughter Dorthea went to Suriname to study the exotic native species of the exotic destination. Their mission would last five years, and in order to fund the mission, Merian had to sell 255 of her paintings. She saw living in Suriname as the opportunity of a lifetime. 

These are some of the coolest facts she uncovered:

  • Sphinx moths have split tongues. She wrote that the two sides of the sphinx moth combine to form one tongue while drinking nectar. This is only true for one brief stage of the sphinx moth’s life, though: immediately emerging from its pupa as an adult moth.
  • Tarantulas devour small birds, like the hummingbird. This fact shakes me to my very core, so I would really rather not dwell on it. I am a hummingbird fanatic, so it breaks my heart that this happens!
  • Leaf cutter ants exist. She wrote: “In America there are large ants which can eat whole trees bare as a broom handle in a single night.”

In 1705, at the age of 54, she published her first illustrated book of the insects of Surinam, Metamorphosis Insectorum Surinamensium, in both Dutch and Latin. 

Ironically, Merian returned to Amsterdam in 1701 because she had come down with an illness thought to be malaria. HELLO! Otherwise known as the virus spread by insects, the mosquito. Can’t say those little guys are a favorite of mine! 

At the age of 64, she suffered from a stroke and became paralized. Her stroke, however debilitating, did not hinder her from continuing her passions. Then in 1717, two short years later, Merian died. Her final work, Erucarum Ortus Alimentum et Paradoxa Metamorphosis, was published posthumously by her daughter. 

Her works are held with great respect and shown by many prestigious collections including the Royal Collection kept at Windsor Castle in the United Kingdom. 

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She’s honored on the 500 Deutsche Mark banknote, the official currency of West Germany from 1948-1990.

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Palissade Drawing by Maria Sibylla Merian

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Murasaki Shikibu: The World’s First Novelist

Japanese novelist, poet, and lady-in-waiting, Murasaki Shikibu is a shining example of feminine excellence dating back to 1000AD. 

First off, let’s explain her name. In Japan at this time, it was commonplace for women to take a name referring to the rank or title of a male relative. “Shikibu” refers to Shikibu-shō, the Ministry of Ceremonials where Murasaki’s father was an official. And “Murasaki” could have been derived from the color violet or lilac associated with the flowering plant wisteria.

Think it’s weird that Queen Elizabeth and Prince Phillip sleep in different bedrooms? Imagine living in a completely different house than your spouse. While Murasaki Shikibu was growing up, husbands and wives living apart was the norm. Although her upbringing was unconventional. It’s thought that her mother may have died in childbirth, or when she and her younger brother were very young, and as a result she grew up in her father’s residence.

Growing up in her father’s residence proved to be the most influential point of her life. Chinese was taught to Murasaki’s brother, and since she lived in her father’s household, she became proficient in classical Chinese. She was likely taught other traditional subjects along with her brother such as calligraphy, music, and Japanese poetry. In her diary she wrote, “When my brother was a young boy learning the Chinese classics, I was in the habit of listening to him and I became unusually proficient at understanding those passages that he found too difficult to understand and memorize.”

‘Just my luck,’ her father would say, ‘What a pity she was not born a man!’”

It wasn’t standard for women to be educated in Japanese society at this time and women were often thought to be incapable of any real intelligence. In fact, she often hid her high IQ since it was deemed unladylike.

She felt others perceived her as pretentious, awkward, difficult to approach and prickly because of her schooling. Asian literature scholar Thomas Inge believes she had “a forceful personality that seldom won her friends.” Well, no wonder. If she wanted to have any intelligent conversation, she’d have to talk to a man – who would indubitably talk down to her. No thanks!

Heian Era

In this time in history, Japan had become more isolated from China and a stronger national culture was emerging. In the 9th and 10th centuries, Japanese gradually became a written language. Heian culture and court life reached peak early in the 11th century. The population of Kyoto grew to around 100,000 as the nobility became increasingly isolated at the Heian Palace in government posts and court service. Courtiers became insulated from reality, preoccupied with trivial court life, and ended up turning to artistic endeavors. 

Emotions were commonly expressed through artistic use of textiles, fragrances, calligraphy, colored paper, poetry, and layering of clothing in pleasing color combinations – according to mood and season. It was an age of prosperity, creativity, and art. 

Her Husband

Heian women lived restricted lives. They were only allowed to speak to men that were close relatives or household members. Murasaki’s diary highlights this; she had limited contact with men other than her father and brother, and she often exchanged poetry with women but never with men. Unlike many noblewomen, she didn’t marry right away. Most would marry at puberty or soon after, but she stayed under her father’s eye until her mid-twenties or early thirties.

She did end up marrying her father’s friend, Fujiwara no Nobutaka. He was actually her much older second cousin, which was not uncommon for the time period. Nobutaka had a reputation as a talented dancer, a gregarious presence, and a phenomenal dresser, so he had high status within the court. Murasaki was not his first wife and had multiple households and an unknown number of offspring. He was a bit of a playboy in this day-in-age and was known to carry on romantic relationships even outside of his marriages. Being that he was quite wealthy and successful within the court, it’s safe to say Nobutaka was probably pretty care-free.

The state of their marriage has been debated among scholars; some deem it happy, others say that her poems indicate that she resented her promiscuous husband.

Murasaki had one child with Nobutaka; a girl named Kenshi. Two years after her birth, Nobutaka died of cholera. As a wealthy, married woman who was already caring for her child herself, she was lucky enough that his death only affected her emotionally and not economically.

Fashion

What was fashion like, you ask? Floor-length hair, whitened skin and *gasp* blackened teeth was in. Blackened teeth? Yes, this practice is called ohaguro. For hundreds of years, pitch black objects were regarded as incredibly beautiful. As a way to achieve a certain standard of Japanese beauty, it became customary for girls and boys, mostly around the age of 15, to dye their teeth black for the first time as a coming-of-age tradition. They use a solution called kanemizu to dye the teeth – a mixture of ferric acetate, vinegar, and tannin from vegetables or tea.

Those who couldn’t keep up became less popular, deeming them less powerful within Heian society. Aesthetics were, and are, important in every culture but because of the ease of life at this time for courtiers, it became part of everyday life and even became a form of social currency.

Blackened teeth and all, the Heian noblewomen’s lives revolved around having love affairs, writing poetry and keeping diaries. The literature that Heian court women wrote is recognized as some of the earliest and remains among the best literature written in Japanese canon to date. Enter our protagonist: Murasaki Shikibu. 

The World’s First Novelist

In Murasaki’s lifetime, men continued to write formally in Chinese, but Kana became the written language of intimacy and noblewomen, setting the foundation for unique forms of Japanese literature. In Japan, Kana refers to syllabic written text whereas Kanji refers to logographic (symbolic) written text. Hiragana, however, is the most commonly used standard form of Japanese writing. 

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Like other aristocratic Heian court women, Murasaki kept a diary. She wrote autobiographically about her life in the Heian court throughout her life. After her husband’s death, she wrote about loneliness.

“I felt depressed and confused. For some years I had existed from day to day in listless fashion, doing little more than registering and passing time. The thought of my continuing loneliness was quite unbearable.”

The Tale of Genji

Murasaki’s novel that is often deemed the first of its kind was titled: The Tale of Genji. It remains unknown if this brilliant literary work was one that was commissioned or if it was a personal project of Murasaki’s. Scholars believe she started the novel before her husband’s death; however, it is certainly known that she was writing after his death as she was grieving.

In many of the images included in this post, you’ll notice that Murasaki at Ishiyama Temple staring at the moon. This is the inspiration for many artworks of Murasaki because legend has it that she retreated to Lake Biwa, where she was inspired to write the Tale of Genji while looking at the moon on a warm, clear August night.

At this time, it was incredibly uncommon for women to write to this scale. Murasaki would have needed to distribute newly written chapters of Genji to friends who in turn would have re-copied them and passed them on. Thus, Murasaki: Author was born. After her husband’s death, she became a lady-in-waiting at court, likely because of her reputation as an author.

There’s speculation that Michinaga, Emperor at the time, had brought her on as his mistress, since he didn’t use the usual formal channels to introduce her as a lady-in-waiting at court. Her diary gives us a bit of proof in this theory since she did exchange poetry with Michinaga which was considered incredibly intimate in their culture. She writes to him in a poem, “You have neither read my book, nor won my love.” This, in my opinion, touches on the core of Murasaki’s being. She valued herself. She valued her work.

Her worth = more important than any man's attention, even the Emperor himself. 

She was proud of her intelligence and of the power of her womanhood. She saw through Michinaga’s advances. If he couldn’t see her the way she saw herself, then their relationship was a lost cause to begin with.

It’s also possible that Michinaga wanted to have Murasaki at court simply to educate his daughter Shōshi. However, Murasaki writes about being Empress Shōshi’s secret tutor. She taught her Chinese and wrote in her diary, “Since last summer… very secretly, in odd moments when there happened to be no one about, I have been reading with Her Majesty. There has of course been no question of formal lessons. I have thought it best to say nothing about the matter to anybody.”

Murasaki continued writing the tale while at court and probably finished while still in service to Shōshi. Michinaga provided her with costly paper and ink and with calligraphers to finish the work and distribute the tale far and wide. The first written copies were probably assembled and bound by ladies in waiting.

The story of a “shining” prince Genji is split into 3 parts; spanning 1100 pages and 54 chapters. It’s likely the novel took a complete decade to finish. The plot details the tyranny of time and the inescapable sorrow of romantic love. The term, “the sorrow of human existence” is used over a thousand times alone in those 1100 pages. Prince Genji is our protagonist in this tale and Murasaki wrote him as as such — a gifted soul, refined, yet so human and flawed with thoughts, inner conflict, emotions, and woes.

Murasaki’s writing gives us a clear depiction into the Heian period. Love affairs flourished and court life was celebrated.

Perhaps Murasaki was writing to escape her own reality and wrote Prince Genji as her ideal man. Prince Genji was the stark opposite of any man she had ever been with. He recognized each of his lovers for the inner beauty they offered and the fragility of life that they brought into his world. She felt only recognized as a woman. A housekeeper, a sex object, and the mother to a man’s child.

Around fifteen women in the story had relationships with Prince Genji and their appearance and personality are varied enough to make the readers think the main characters are actually the women, and not Prince Genji.

“It transcends both its genre and age. Its basic subject matter and setting – love at Heian court – are those of romance, and its cultural assumptions are those of mid-Heian period, but Murasaki’s unique genius has made the work for many a powerful statement of human relationships, the impossibility of permanent happiness in love and the vital importance, in a world of sorrows, of sensitivity to the feelings of others.”

Helen Mccullough, american academic and “japanologist”

Wow.

Her Legacy

Murasaki’s legacy is not only that of The Tale of Genji and her diaries, but that her works were instrumental in developing Japanese into a written language. She remains regarded as a classical writer to this day and her story and works are celebrated and used as inspiration all over the world.

The design of the 2000-yen note was created in Murasaki’s honor.

You can find The Tale of Genji translated into English on Amazon here.

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